Dating Anxiety is a real thing and there are a lot more people that suffer from it than you think. Let's face it, dating is hard, you have to put yourself out there and expose yourself to others. You have to let people in and show them who you really are. Dating can be stressful no matter who you are or how confident you are as a person. Check out these suggestions to get over your dating anxiety with ease.

Dating should always be fun! It's important that above all else when you decide to enter the dating pool you remember to have fun! If you're not having fun, why bother with dating at all? It's easy to have fun if you remember not to take yourself seriously and go with the flow. If you don't let things get to you then you can't get stressed out. Keep the tone of a date light and enjoy the moment. When something doesn't go your way, don't let it get to you, instead simply move on. Don't hold on to the little things, they will end up building up and stressing you out beyond belief until you have to let it all out.

The best way to release stress is to take a step back and take a deep breath. Slowing down and focusing on your breathing helps to calm you down. If you find that you're feeling stressed it's important for you to just BREATHE. This will help you to act rationally and more clearly. If it's more helpful to remove yourself from the date then excuse yourself and head to the restroom where you can take a few minutes to take some much needed deep breaths.

Make sure that you know that you are a catch and that anyone would be lucky to date you! Don't dwell on your not so favorable characteristics, instead promote those that you have that are GREAT! Don't be afraid to promote who you are and what you have to offer but don't overdo it! Believe in yourself! Your confidence will come through strong and will help to keep any anxiety at bay.

Always, always, always focus on the positive aspects in any situation that you see yourself in and have an open mind. Don't be judgemental of someone you just met, remember you don't want others to do this to you. Don't 'read into things', instead take everything as it comes and roll with the punches no matter what. Enjoy each and every date and give the person that you're with your full attention. Always be optimistic and open to trying new things. Have great discussions, enjoy some laughs and really attempt to get to know the other person for who they are, not who they seem to be.

Really listen to what your date has to say and focus on your date. Don't be distracted by other people around you. Focus on what your date is saying and show interest in it too. Turn your cell phone off or put it on silent and put it away, don't just turn it over on the table because you may still be tempted to have a look at it and that's not fair to your date. Learn about the person that you're with and don't monopolize the conversation, take in what they are saying and remember it. Finally, don't ever interrupt what is being said, wait until your date is done saying what they want to say and then add to the conversation or tell a story that you may have. Really listening to what is being said and being part of the conversation will make you think less about things that may cause you anxiety. Plus being immersed in the conversation will make you more relaxed and you'll be able to enjoy your company more.

The first few dates with someone new are meant to establish a relationship so keep things light, there's no need to have serious conversations about all the bad things or struggles that you've had to deal with in your life. Talk about what interests you have, what you like to do in your spare time, where you've traveled, fun things that you've experienced in your life and most of all ask questions about who the other person is. Show interest in getting to know them just as much as sharing about who you are.

Be yourself and live in the moment. Don't dwell on what might happen or could come from your date, live it! Focus on connecting with each other rather than being distracted by what might or could go wrong. Don't put undo pressure on yourself to get everything right, if you do this you won't have time to take in what's really happening and instead you'll end up feeling disconnected from your date rather than making any sort of true connection. Forget about everything and everyone else for the time being and just pay attention to what you have in front of you instead.

Typically you are your own worst enemy and critic. Focus on your positive attributes and what you can bring to the date and to a possible future with someone who you deem worthy of a second, third and fourth date. Remember your worth and project it onto others, there's a reason you're on a date with this person, they choose you! Don't try to be someone you're not, it won't end well at all. Be you and be real, if you do this, your anxiety will melt away and if there's a connection it will be evident quickly. This one is a tricky one and can take some practice, but once you realize what you have to contribute to a relationship you are going to be able to find someone who is right for you and you won't have to settle for anything less.

This is the key to ensuring that your dating anxiety stays at bay, don't be clingy. Sure everyone likes to feel needed and wanted but not many people are crazy about a clinger. Being needy can make any sane person run in the other direction without a moments notice. It is a huge turn off when a potential new mate drops everything that is important in their lives to be there for someone they've only just met. This kind of behavior leads to someone who might have been perfect for you avoiding your calls, texts and especially making another date with you. Keep your cool and don't make yourself available 24/7 by ditching your plans to spend more time with someone who you've only just started dating, things may be hot right now, but your friends and family will always be there for you so it's not worth putting your personal relationship on the back burner. No one that you're going to date will find this attractive, people like and are attracted to other singles because they have their own lives and aren't afraid to live them.

There's so much advice out there on how to keep someone attracted to you but what seems to be lacking is advice on how to take stock of the person you're sitting across the table from on a first or second date and deciding are they worth it or not. Sure he or she may be good looking and have some of the qualities that you're looking for in a partner but do they have enough of them? What are your absolute MUST haves and what things can you live without ever getting from this person. You'll need to sit back, take it all in and then decide is this someone that you can see yourself happily with in 5, 10, or even 20 years. Don't be fooled by the first (or second) date charms of this potential new mate, if there's something that he or she doesn't have that is a deal breaker for you then you need to end it before you get too far in the relationship. It will be far better for your sanity and anxiety if you cut things short earlier rather than later if you can't picture yourself together in the future. Plus not to mention that they will appreciate that you're not wasting their time for something that you don't see a future with, obviously, this might not be right away but they will eventually.

This could make a big difference in how your entire date plays out. Pick someone that you trust to call during your date. This person can be your safe person. Give them a code word or phrase so that they know if you need a call back to get out of your date or if everything is going well and you're okay to continue with your date. Whether the date is going well or if it isn't this is the call that will help you to either end your date immediately with a code word or phrase to let the person you're chatting with know how you're doing. If you don't feel comfortable answering your phone at the table you can easily excuse yourself and head to the restroom to make the call. Once you have a quick check in then you can head back to your date without them knowing that you were making a phone call while you were in the restroom.

There are all kinds of dating sites out there and tons of horror stories that go along with these sites but that doesn't mean that you can't meet someone who will be a perfect match for you. Finding someone that 'gets' you completely is what we all want and it's possible but you need to remember to take your time, stay calm, have fun and never settle for anything else than what you truly deserve and want in your future partner. The hardest thing will be finding the right person. The best thing that you can do is to make sure that you don't settle for someone that you think will be a good partner, instead, go on another date and then another and even another if that's what it takes.

Once you do finally find that Right person for you, all of the bad dates that you've gone on in the past will fade away and you'll realize just how worth it, it was to be a bit picky to get the best match for you. When you do get the best match you'll quickly see that it was all worth it because you will have the time of your life!

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