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How To Tell If Your Flirtationship Is Going Nowhere

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If you are in a firtationship and it is not working out, it may be time to end it. To know if it is not going anywhere, you should be able to tell whether your needs are being met or not. If you feel any pressure, then it is not working out. If you are trying too hard, the same is true. If the flirtationship partner is flirting with others and if you are not being asked on a date after a few months, then it is going nowhere. Flirtationships are supposed to be fun until the time comes to end them or take it a step further into a long term relationship. Do you know where yours are headed?

What exactly is flirtationship?

If you haven't heard the term before? The term means that two people, whether a friend or other person decides to start flirting with each other and have no expectation initially of it being anything serious. When you flirt, it doesn't mean that you are just going to turn around and start kissing, dating and having sex. You are just flirting for now and then decide to accept the results, whatever that may be.

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The Different Places

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You can have flirtationships while in college, at a party, at a social gathering or even at work. It happens anywhere that you find yourself in a space where there is someone you are attracted to and who is attracted to you. It could even be in a group setting while you are engaged in an activity that has nothing to do with dating. Flirting may begin while you are complimenting one another. You could be making sexy jokes or touching without taking your clothes off. This usually happens in public, in email messages, on social media and through text messaging.

Safe and Satisfying

Flirtationships are usually quite safe and gratifying. You feel no unnecessary pressure. Flirting is done usually to pass the time. In some cases, it is done to test the waters to find out if you are ready to start a relationship with someone or date someone. You could be flirting with someone to test the waters, but not necessarily want to start a relationship with the person you are flirting with. You could be doing it to see if you still got your groove. This is what some men do.

The Reasons

There is a wide variety of reasons why some people choose flirtationships. However, most of the reasons can only be controlled by the two people involved. In one scenario, one person might live in a different city, already be in a relationship, or not ready to begin a relationship. Any one of these valid reasons could count as a reason to start a flirtationship. When you are in one of these flirtatious relationships, it gives you enough time to think about what is the next step to take. You can decide whether to pursue the actual hookup or make yourself contented with your existing situation or just leave it alone and keep it moving.

Emotionally Vulnerable

You are already emotionally vulnerable, if you are in a flirtatious relationship. While this might appear to be harmless, there are guarantees that either of you won't fall in love with the other. If the 'falling in love' part occurs, then you might want to reconsider your position. If you are looking for something more and it doesn't seem to be happening, then you become emotionally vulnerable.

The Fizzle

What if the flirtationship begins to fizzle out? How do you know and what should you do? Of course, we know these things really don't last forever unless you want to take it to the next level. Yes, they can last for years, but some will never pan out to be anything more. You may have feelings for your flirt buddy, but if your flirt buddy does not reciprocate the feelings, then it is going nowhere. Below are some signs that will tell you when it is all fizzling out.

No Date Yet

If your flirty buddy has not yet asked you on a date, then you know this is going nowhere. If he continues to be flirtatious over a long period of time, but never makes a single attempt to ask you on an official date, then that is as good as you will ever see it.

Other Involvement

If he is involved or flirting with other people and doesn't hide it from you, then you could call it quits. Flirtationships are expected to be non-exclusive. When someone starts to flirt with you and you do the same thing, it is already thought to be a flirtationship. If you see him flirting with your friends, then it means that there was nothing special about what you two once had. It is also apparent that he is open to other flirtationships while he is flirting with you.

The Big Question

If you cannot bring yourself to inquire if this relationship is going anywhere or not, it means that you are unsure that is going somewhere. When you find yourself in this type of connection, there is no ideal way to define it. There are no tangible factors that you can use to define it since there is no sex, no admission of how you feel and no intimacy or affection. It is all about the flirting. So how do you gauge it? And how do you move forward if you are unable to bring up the topic or question of 'where this is going?' And if you are asking the flirt buddy where it is going and he says he doesn't know, this should create some red flags. It is best to come straight out and ask for the relationship rather than trying to beat around the bushes. However, you have to first ask if the flirt buddy has the same feelings as you. If he says he doesn't know, then he probably hasn't thought about it other than flirting.

Getting Frustrated

If you begin to get frustrated about the situation, then you might want to take a pause to see if your flirtationship is going anywhere or not. One of the major red flags is when you are frustrated about not having more of that person other than flirting. The high in your flirtationship has already reached its climax and going downward instead of upward. It is time then to re-evaluate the situation and be honest about what you really want. Try not to overreact about the situation. It might not be a big deal and maybe it is time to find another flirting buddy.

No Changes

If you are unable to see any changes in your flirting buddy, no matter what you do or say, then you can easily tell that your flirtationship is going nowhere. If you decided to bring up a fully fledged relationship to your flirting buddy and it is rejected, then you should definitely move on. You cannot force anyone to adapt to your feelings and decisions. You have to roll with the punches and accept that it is over and that it is time to seek out new people to flirt with.

Getting Tired

If you are getting tired of the flirting or your flirt buddy seems to be getting tired of it and there is no fun in it anymore, then it is time to call it quits because it means that it is not going anywhere. Anytime someone is tired of it all, then it starts to get monotonous, useless and boring. You don't want to find yourself in such a place. And you also don't want to seem hypocritical, pretending that it is working out when it is not. One of the things that will get you tired of it all is flirting over a period of time and not seeing any progress, which means it is not going anywhere and you are unable to express your true feelings and intentions. All the compliments in the world cannot make up for not being able to go on a date and not being able to tell the other person that you love or like them.

Going Deeper

Having a flirtatious relationship is simple, but going a step further with deeper feeling is more complex. If the other person is unwilling to explore the possibilities of going deeper, then it is time to call off the flirting because it is not going anywhere. It is not easy to end it, but sometimes when you see those signs of wariness; it is time to dispose of it right away.

How to End It

For some people, it might not be easy to end the relationship. For others, it is a piece of cake. However, if you don't put any pressure on yourself or care about hurting the other person's feelings, you just have to walk away. You don't even have to explain why. You just stop flirting and stop calling or texting. The other person cannot hold you to it because this is not a fully fledged relationship. However, at what point do you decide to quit? Well, once you see the signs that it is not going anywhere, then that is when you end it. There is no sense in staying in a flirtationship when it is not benefiting you or the other person, for that matter.

Temporary Fix

The flirting is just a temporary fix to help you escape from your reality of having a single lifestyle. So, there should be no real expectations unless you and the other person have decided to move from flirting to something deeper. However, in the case, where the person's feelings cannot be validated, you should consider ending it right away. This is going to mean you have to stop reciprocating the flirting. Reduce the number of emojis you send in a message and stop behaving as if you are a girlfriend or boyfriend of sorts. Start to treat the person as a platonic friend or walk away leaving the friendship behind and starting new ones.

Tell All

You could also tell the person casually that you plan to start a serious relationship with someone else and see how the person responds. Watch the body language. The physical and verbal response will indicate whether the flirtationship is going to go anywhere now or in the future. It is best to get everything you have to say and do out in the open. That means you have to be honest because you don't want to waste either of your time when you could be having another meaningful relationship with someone else.

The Chemistry

If you have been flirting for a while and it is long enough for you to know the person in such a way as to be able to tell the cologne or perfume that he or she wears and who they like their coffee, then it may be time to move it to the next level. If there is obvious chemistry, there is no reason why you should continue flirting and not move forward. You could end up losing the person to someone else. If that is the case and the other person is not willing to admit it, then just take yourself out of the situation. You have more to lose than to gain in staying. If you bring up the idea of moving into something deeper and it gets to where there is an argument or defensive action, it might not be worth your time and energy. You should ask for clear answers.

Feeling the Sparks

If you still can feel the sparks and you get butterflies in your stomach each time you flirt with each other, it might be worth making the significant move of a deeper relationship. However, make sure that you both are on the same page. A deeper and engaging conversation with no excuses would be the first place to start. Excuses are a sign pointing to nowhere.

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