You're looking, you're hoping, and yet you can't seem to make it from where you are now, into a serious relationship. Is is something you're doing? Is it something you're not doing? What's ruining your chances of having a serious relationship? There are a number of reasons why you may be ruining your chances of having a serious relationship, and it's a pretty wide range of possibilities, so you'll have to decide which applies the most to you. It might be something on your end that's ruining your chances of having a serious relationship, or it could be a number of other factors. Maybe the timing is just off. Maybe you're not in the right place in your life to be attracting what it is that you want. Maybe you still haven't recovered from being badly burned in a past relationship, and you don't feel like anyone will value you the way you should be. You could also be needier as a result of past experiences. Maybe your family is pressuring you and you're just not ready. It could also be that your standards are simply unrealistic. Whatever the case, you'll find more information right here, to help you figure out why you might be ruining your chances of having a serious relationship. Keep reading for more details!

It could very well be that the timing simply isn't on. Maybe there's someone that you've been talking to or seeing, and you've thought about taking things to the next level, but there are reasons that are keeping that from happening right now. Maybe they're recently out of a relationship and aren't ready for more. Maybe you are. Maybe there are job opportunities that are going to put a strain on the amount of time that you or the person you're seeing can put into the relationship. If the timing is off, then it's off and there's not a lot that you can do about that. You can't force a relationship under these kinds of circumstances because in the end, it's probably going to wind up ending badly. If the timing is off at a time when you're looking to be in a relationship, then you need to be okay with that.

You can either keep doing what you're doing, or you can decide to move on. You wouldn't be wrong for doing either. If you're looking for something serious though, this probably isn't the best way for you to find it.

Maybe you're not in the right place to attract what you're looking for to you. If you're not feeling like you're in the right place to be attracting the kind of relationship that you're looking for, then you're not going to end up attracting it. It's pretty uncommon to attract something long-term when your head isn't in the game, so it's probably best to leave things be at the moment if you're not in the right place to be entertaining a long-term relationship. If you try at the wrong time, you're only going to end up in a situation that doesn't work and definitely one that doesn't end up ending well.

If you're not in the right place for something long-term, then this is the worst time to try and force it. This would be the best time to be in a casual situation where there is no expectation of commitment, and where you're not going to have to worry about things going forward any more than they need to at this particular point. When you're not in the right place, you're not in the right place. You can't force yourself to feel differently than you do.

When you've been seriously burned in a past relationship, the effects can carry over into any relationships that you try to have going forward. This can be a really big deal for a lot of people, and often times, it usually turns out that you'll end up having a few short-term situations come to abrupt endings before you realize just how much of a lasting effect your last serious relationship had on you. When you've been really badly burned, it can make trusting anyone new seem impossible. One of the best things that you can probably do if you realize that your last relationship is still holding you back from getting into a new relationship, is to consider talking to someone about it, and trying to get some of your feelings sorted out so that you can eventually get past your last bad experience. You don't want to continue moving forward in relationships when you're not ready to be making that step in your life. Taking some time to work through your past experience and putting it behind you is probably going to be the best way for you to move forward with something new.

Further to the last point, really bad past relationship experiences may have made you really needy and that can make things complicated for you going forward when it comes to trying to get involved in new relationships. No one wants to date anyone who is needy, and if your last relationship has left you in a vulnerable place, then you're going to need to make sure that you address this because if you put the weight of the effects your past situations have had on you on anyone else, you're going to end up driving them away. Imagine how you would feel if your new squeeze was constantly putting a lot of pressure on you to fulfill their needs because of things that have nothing to do with you. You're ultimately going to end up being turned off of them. It sucks but at the end of the day, it's reality. No one wants to get into a serious relationship with anyone who is needy, so if you have some issues with neediness due to your past experiences, then you're going to want to deal with those before you get into a serious relationship with anyone new.

Once you reach a certain point in your life, this is probably something that everyone becomes guilty of to one extent or another. It's great to get to a point where you know what you do want, and especially where you know what you don't want. You still need to remain realistic when it comes to the expectations that you have of your partner though. Remember that everyone comes with their own experiences and expectations attached to them, and there has to be some sort of a realistic place to meet in the middle. You wouldn't want anyone expecting things of you there were completely unrealistic, so if you're finding that no one can seem to live up to your expectations when they're dating you, then maybe it's because your expectations are unrealistic, and you need to revisit what you think someone needs to be giving you in relationships. There's nothing wrong with making a couple of revisions to your relationship expectations when you're looking to find something that's really going to work, so take a look at your expectations, and see if there might be one or two things that you can scale back a bit.

When it comes to relationships, there can be a lot of pressures that come from outside that can include peer pressure and pressure from your family. If you're finding that these are things that you're having to deal with a lot more right now, then you're not going to end up finding the right relationship for yourself at the moment. There are likely very few people who can ever say that they found the love of their life because their friends and family were pressuring them, and they decided to settle for the next relationship they ended up in. Pressure can be a really big deal when it comes to how you approach relationships, so before you decide to move forward in a relationship that you're not sure of because your family and friends are telling you that you should, you should really think twice, or your relationship is likely to end badly.

If you're not into it, then you're not into it. Being able to recognize that you're simply not ready for or interested in having a serious relationship right now is something that you will be glad you were able to do down the road, when the right person for you comes along. If you're not into having a long-term relationship at the moment because you simply don't want it, then by all means, don't do it. You're not going to be doing yourself or anyone who might end up in your path as you date the wrong people, any favors by getting involved in something that you don't want. Be honest with yourself, and be prepared to keep moving in your own direction if you don't want a relationship. You likely have other things on your mind at the moment, and there's nothing wrong with that, which brings us to our next point.

You have other things on your mind that you want to do right now, and that's totally fine. The last thing anyone wants to do, if they're being honest with themselves, is get involved in a relationship when their head's not in it because they have other things that they want to accomplish before settling down. If you feel like you still have things that you need to do, then you should definitely do those things before you decide to have a serious relationship. If you don't, then chance are you will end up being resentful of yourself and your partner for not taking the chances that you wanted to take when you had the chance. If you have other goals at the moment, then go for them before you try to get into anything serious.

If you're not ready to be in a serious relationship, then don't force yourself to be for any reason. Relationships either end up being disappointing or ending badly when we settle for them, for whatever reason. If you don't feel like you're in a place where you can have a serious relationship, then there's likely a good reason for that, and you should go with it. Doing things when you're not ready is always likely to lead you to a place where things don't end well, or where you end up in a situation that you ultimately don't want to be in. If you're not ready, don't do it. For your own sake and for the sake of your potential partner.

There are a lot of things to consider when it comes to why you might not be in a serious relationship. It could be that you're simply not ready because you have other things you want to do first. It could be that you've got a lot of issues to deal with from your past relationships that you need to take care of before getting into anything serious. When it comes to pressure, that's not something that you should feel like you need to take on. If you're being pressured by your friends and family, that's not a reason to settle down with anyone. You need to do things in your time. Whatever your particular reasons for not being in a serious relationship may be, there are lots of ways that you can deal with them, in your own time. Hopefully this has helped you.

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