There are things that you should know and do in order to have a good hookup. For one, hooking up is both party's responsibilities, so you have to plan how and where the hookup with take place. You also have to discuss your sexual preferences and sexuality beforehand. You also need to understand that this may be a one-time occurrence with no attachments and you have to be OK with that. You have to go in with the intention of enjoying yourself, pleasing the other person and having fun.

Casual hookups can be really fun and enjoyable. However, if you have never had a casual hookup before, it can be nerve wracking to the point of making you anxious and impatient. If you start to worry about it before it happens, then you are just setting yourself up for failure because you will be too uptight to enjoy it. When you think about hooking up with someone new, it may prompt you to be concerned about things that you wouldn't normal consider such as how your hair looks and how well dressed you may be. This is quite normal, but you should try not to overdo it or let it get out of hand.

When you hook up with someone, it should be fun and safe. Your only concern should be about exploring your sexuality and making sure your sexual needs are met and you know how to satisfy the next person, helping them to meet their sexual needs as well. As it is with anything you are exploring, there are some basic rules that should be incorporated to maintain continued safety and privacy, away from the gossip mongers so you can keep your reputation in check. So even if you are new to the casual hookup game, you will learn fast enough what you should do to become a pro at this and to put that smile on your face when you are done. Make sure you go into this without any hidden agendas.

One thing you need to do is to relax when you are going into a casual hookup. Act as if it is something that is normal. Embrace the fact that it could be awkward in the beginning, but make a concerted effort to relax and enjoy the ride. There are a few things that you should consider when hooking up so that you don't feel overwhelmed or disconcerted. Let us explore some of these things.

When going into a casual hookup, expect nothing more than good sex. But, the same way you want to have good sex, you should be able to give it as well. Make sure that there is a connection and physical attraction between the two of you. Yes, your attraction for each other should be mutual. There are many people who have experienced a good hookup because of this one reason. Go into it without any negative feelings or thoughts. If you have a negative approach or feelings toward booty calls or one-night stands, then this is probably not for you. Don't allow other people to dictate how you live your life. Do this to please only YOU! Have an open mind about this and you will enjoy it more.

Think about all the sexual fantasies that you would love to live and this will make your encounter more interesting and passion filled. You should also think about all the sexual positions that you would like to try. For example, if you have never done BDSM or any type of fetish performance, it may be the right time to start. This could make the difference in how you perform and what you expect your partner to perform on you. Let the other person know what you like and what you expect and listen to their sexual needs so you can fulfill it too.

The "no strings attached" encounter can be as beautiful as you want if you go in with no negative thoughts and think of it as a way to fulfill your fantasies and get 'naughty,' even for once in your life. It could be that you aren't having your sexual needs met by someone that you have a relationship with. For that reason, you are looking for a non-committed hookup that will help you to meet those needs. Nothing is wrong with that. At least, you can talk to that hookup partner, explaining what you are looking for and issuing the sexual demands that you have at that moment. With a hookup partner, you can go beyond your wildest expectations by letting your guard down. You don't have to act as if the sex is good when it is not. You can demand what you want and if it is not met, you can end the encounter and try the same thing over again with someone else. Or, you can spell out your demands and have them met right there and then. You can call the shots. That is the best thing with a casual hookup.

Don't try to play games or be a player. A casual hookup does not warrant such behavior. You don't have to lie about anything. You can get exactly want by telling the truth. Explain to him or her that you are very attracted to them and make it believable that you would love the chance to please or satisfy them. Don't try to patronize each other. Don't beat around the bushes. Come straight to the point. You are not asking to be married. You are asking for a casual hookup with someone you may never see again. Take your chances and hope for the best. Look at this as an adventure of fun and excitement and you will have a good hookup. If you have trust issues, make that be known upfront and get the semantics out of the way without making it such a big deal.

It is also important how you treat each other. It is best to be fair and honest. Don't assume that either of you wants more than just the casual hookup. Be honest and upfront so that there is no discomfort. Treat each other with respect, kindness and courteousness. Not because this is a casual fling does it mean that you have to act as if there is no value in each other. You are both fulfilling each other's needs and that should be the primary focus. To get what you want out of it means that you have to value each other's contribution in more ways than one.

You should never hook up with your friends because this could change the nature of your friendship. There is no 'friends with benefits' if you cannot separate your feelings afterwards. If you want to have a good hookup, it is better to do so with someone you don't know. In doing so, you will leave with no misgivings or conclusions. You should leave with a sexually satisfied mind and body - nothing more and nothing less. That is why it is important to hook up with strangers. Think about it: who will listen to all your hookup stories if you have a casual hookup with your friends?

To have a good casual hookup might mean watching some softcore porn together to get the temperature turned up in the bedroom. Nothing is wrong with porn as long as you both agree to it mutually. Make sure you pause for a reaction. You will know by the facial expression whether your suggestion is acceptable or not. If not, then move on to the next game plan. That means, you have to come prepared for action, but putting your action on display.

For a good hookup, have a few drinks, but do not overdo it. If you are not a drinker, leave it alone. If you don't get frazzled after one or two drinks, then a few shots could get you relaxed and ready for some action. A few drinks will loosen you up and make you ready to try new things that you have never tried before. It will help you to hit the appropriate spots, keeping your rhythm and removing any spins or inhibitions when you get ready to switch from the cowgirl position to doggie style. Of course, there are no guarantees that the drinks will work, especially if you overdo it, but it is worth a try.

Make sure that you remain cool from the moment you hook up to the moment it is all over. Make direct eye contact and break the ice by injecting humor and laughter. This will make you relax and ready for some action. Let it be an encounter that is fun. If you relax then your partner will engage you. If you make her laugh for example, it is the ideal way to get her to relax and become more comfortable with you.

Be careful what you say and how you act. Avoid certain phrases and words. Don't let her feel as if the idea to hook up with you casually makes her a tramp or whore. Be a gentleman about it. Let the encounter be respectful by complimenting her and making her feel wanted and special. Yes, even when you are hooking up with someone, you should let them feel special. It is the right and human thing to do, if you want to get the best out of her.

Take charge of the situation without being forceful or pushy. A woman likes when a man takes charge and leads the way. If you don't, then she will. A man doesn't mind if a woman leads. In fact, most men will be turned on by that, but you have to follow his queues first because you don't want to be overbearing. And you don't want to disrespect his position as a leader.

If the hookup is going to take place in your home, make sure all past evidence of hookups is nowhere to be seen. That means you should remove photographs, underwear and other valuables from sight. Even though, this may be a casual hookup, you still want the night or day to go well without the added drama of yesteryear. Of course, she may already know that she is not your only hookup, but don't shove it all in her face.

If you have sex toys, by all means use them as long as it there is a mutual agreement. Sex toys can enhance the experience. It can add more passion to the encounter. It could be more interesting and not boring. Sex toys are a good way to take some of the performance pressure off of you too.

Make sure that you are patient during the experience. Don't rush the sexual encounter. Take your time and explore each other's body. Remember it is an experience that should be calculated, fun, interesting and downright satisfying. So make sure you designate enough time so that you can spend it together without having to rush and the result can be worthwhile at the end of it all. Rushing will only make the experience subpar and possibly not worth the time and energy.

Women are naturally emotional. So make the connection both emotional and physical. That means, you have to get into it in an intimate way and not treat it mechanical or methodical. A woman will sense this right away. Let her believe that you are enjoying her and vice versa. Make it real and genuine or just don't do it at all.

Last, but not least, let your intentions become known to each other. Have good sex without expecting anything else. Don't leave with any emotional baggage. Set the boundaries beforehand and respect them. Enjoy the experience and walk away feeling good about what you just did! Don't take it too serious. A casual hookup is just that - casually satisfying, if you follow these tips!

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