Having a same sex hookup is going to be a personal decision. However, there is no reason why you shouldn't, especially if you are curious about sexuality and gender issues. If this is one of your long time fantasies, nothing is wrong with playing it out. At least, you will have that experience on your bucket list. You will also have an appreciation for same-sex hookups because you would have experienced it yourself. No longer would you have to listen to the views of society as it pertains to this topic, but you would have a first-hand experience to form your own views. Sometimes, you have to walk in someone else's shoes to understand where they are coming from. Who knows? You may just love the lifestyle and switch.

You may have heard that it is always possible to have better sex, relationships and orgasms. You probably want to know the nitty-gritty of what that entails to get a better awareness of how to fulfill your deepest desires without feeling embarrassed about it. In the case of sexuality and gender, there is always a gray area. It is not longer black and white. An honest exploration of same-sex hookups is one way to figure out precisely where and how you fit in. If you want to spice up your sex life, then this is a good way to proceed so you can even see what this fuss is all about.

Well, even though, you are curious about making the step towards having this same sex hookup experience, you probably won't be classified as a gay or a lesbian person. So don't have any hang ups about that and you don't have to be embarrassed. Deal with the elephant in the room and move on. Your goal and focus should primarily be on gathering some knowledge about the experience and be able to make a decision whether this is something you want to pursue as a lifestyle. The gay lifestyle comes with its own pressure from society and so to make sure you want to endure these pressures, it is a good idea to try a same-sex hookup, if you are brave enough to do so.

If you happen to be curious and yet uncertain whether you want to try or not, you could talk to a gay or lesbian friend. This will give a better idea of what to expect and possibly help you to make the decision whether to move forward or not. Remember that you don't have to commit to this lifestyle. All you are doing is experimenting and so you should not let other people's opinion sway you or box you in either way.

If you are a straight man or woman and you find lesbian or gay porn exciting and arousing, it may be time to try a same sex hookup. If you enjoy having threesomes, for example and there is a person from the opposite sex within the threesome, it may be time to look into the homosexual side of you. It is possible to be gender neutral and still enjoy having some kind of intimacy with someone of another gender. While this is a complex issue, it is safe to say that it is highly personal and will be a personalized choice for each person. Take time to reflect on how you feel about this whole issue and on the past sexual experiences that you have already had. Were they sexually fulfilling or boring enough for you to try something new?

If you have always fantasized about a same sex hookup, then it may be time to live out those fantasies and make them a reality. If you are uncomfortable with the idea, then you could get comfortable by watching porn where there is a same sex connection. This could help you cozy up to the idea. It means you have to throw out all your old beliefs and explore the concept. It also means that you should think about your own feelings and enjoyment, determining what you want for yourself and how you are going to have full satisfaction in a sexual interaction. With this determination, you will now be able to make your next move, embracing the same sex hookup as a possible one-time experience or lifestyle, if you like it enough after trying.

If you have finally decided to participate in a same sex hookup, it is time to start planning your moves. You have to consider how you will personalize this so you can actually enjoy it and not be sorry about trying it. Not everyone has the same comfort level. Let's say you have a friend that we will call Marcia and she goes to a lesbian bar to see what goes on there and to finally figure out if she loves girls or not, after thinking about it since she was in high school. Marcia is making the right moves to either squash her fantasy or carry it out. And so, she has to start planning for it, if she decides to move forward with it. Like Marcia, you can visit the lesbian bar to get comfortable with the LGBT lifestyle and to possibly hookup with someone there. This should be the first part of your plan - how to learn about the lifestyle and get a close up view and how to solicit the help of another lesbian to carry out your plans and fantasy.

You don't have to go to a lesbian bar or gay bar to meet someone of the same sex. They are all over. These are regular people like yourself. While you may be able to spot a gay man because of his gesticulation or how he dresses, in many cases, a gay or lesbian person may be in your place of business, office, grocery store, apartment building and other places and you don't even know their sexual preference or lifestyle. Therefore, you have to approach this with an open mind with no misguided assumptions. Homosexuals are ordinary people like yourself with feelings, expectations, hopes, goals and aspirations. You should treat them as such. When you are choosing someone to help for a same sex hookup, you have to remember this. Treat others as you want to be treated. Be friendly to people around you and you would be surprised how easy it is to meet someone of the same sex that you can approach with your new plan of getting hooked and laid.

Once you have met someone and secured the same sex hookup make sure that you are comfortable with it and as long as it consensual between two adults, you should be good to go. You don't have to go into this full-fledged. You can start by kissing so as to get comfortable with doing this. You could start by holding and touching each other until you are comfortable enough to do the sexual act. Remember that you can get out of this anytime you want so if you have any kind of hesitation, even up to the last minute, make sure you let your selected partner know. Give yourself the chance to reassess the situation before making the final commitment.

In any sexual encounter, whether with the same sex or other sex, it is important to prepare yourself for safe and protected sex. This means that you should equip yourself with condoms, birth control pills, latex gloves and dental dams, just to name a few. This will show your partner that you care about safety on both fronts. Safe sex will be more enjoyable anyway because you won't be worried about any bad outcome. Carefully assess your risks and then go out and get your supplies for a safe and protected sexual experience.

Discuss with your chosen partner how you would like to have sex. This means the sexual positions that you are willing to try. Make sure you inject humor into the situation and not get serious about this kind of stuff or it won't be fun. For the woman, the scissor position would be fulfilling since it caresses and stimulates the clitoral area. You could also try the missionary position with legs up, which allows the other woman enough access for manual stimulation, oral stimulation or easy penetration. Spooning is another position where the other person enters from behind so as to reach around for penetration or clitoral stimulation. Use your imagination and don't be afraid to experiment. For men, the cowboy, missionary, doggy style and reverse cowboy styles are the many options to choose from. Like women, men also enjoy nipple stimulation and kissing. Discuss who will have the most dominant role or let it play out during your sexual encounter. Don't be afraid to use sex toys and lubricants to enhance the experience.

After your same sex hookup, make sure that you both emotionally and physically prepared and ready for this sexual encounter. Talk about ways that you can initiate the encounter to test the waters first. If it doesn't work out, at least, you would have just tested it and no one can hold you hostage to it. You would just walk away, knowing that you had a little peak into the homosexual lifestyle. It is better to test it first before you fully embrace the idea. Testing could mean having a threesome and being the partner that does more watching and touching than the actual penetration. Try to be as creative as possible.

If you finally had a same sex hookup and you like it, then it is obvious that you are going to want to try it again. But, take it in strides. You don't want to feel overwhelmed. If this was just a one-time hookup, you could try it every now and again to try and get more comfortable with it and have a better understanding. In doing so, you are building your experience so as to get to that comfort level. Soon, you will have the confidence to seek out same sex hookups on a regular basis. Let your experiences by your future guide to having incredible same sex hookups.

If you are a straight man and people think that you are acting gay, don't worry about it. You are permitted to act as gay as you want and receive gay sex when you want. There are some men that say they are straight just to please family members and friends. Deep down, the man knows he is gay and can't help but 'act' that way. For that person, staying in the closet is what makes them more comfortable. You don't have to stay in the closet to please family and friends and society. Life is too short to limit yourself out of fear. Get out of that closet and live your life on your terms. Start by trying a same sex hookup. If you don't do this, then you are only hurting yourself emotionally and physically.

There are different reasons why you should try a same sex hookup. One is the curiosity that you have had and wanted to satisfy. You can cross over from curiosity to reality by stop fantasizing and experiencing the actual act. The experience could ultimately change your life, humble you and give you an understanding of the lifestyle so as to appreciate the LGBT community. You will probably have a better sex life and an improved social life. You could turn your life from one that is boring to one of fun and excitement, just by trying a same sex hookup. In so doing, you are the one in control, choosing how you should identify yourself, with whom you should be with and how you should live your life. So let your curiosity turn into reality by trying a same sex hookup now.

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